How can laughing together strengthen the emotional bond between me and my child?
Parenting Perspective
The Science of Shared Laughter
Laughing together reduces stress and increases oxytocin, a hormone that strengthens bonds. It fosters emotional safety, shared memories, and inside jokes. Laughing with your child, rather than at them, creates an environment where happiness is accepted and bonds are strengthened.
Humour in Discipline and Connection
Additionally, humour can diffuse tension and transform discipline into a relational rather than reactive process. Crucially, laughing with your child rather than at them promotes dignity and connection. Humour can gently defuse tension and allow you to correct behaviour without resorting to fear or shame. Even during discipline, a well-timed smile or light-hearted moment can communicate that you are still emotionally present and loving. A giggle after a tantrum, a funny bedtime voice, or a spontaneous game signal to your child: We are still connected, no matter what. In this way, Joy shared is trust deepened.
Spiritual Insight
The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ would smile often and laugh in moderation. It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 3641, that his companions said:
“We never saw anyone who smiled more than the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ. “
Laughter rooted in warmth and mercy is not frivolous; it is prophetic. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Anbiyaa (21), Verse 107:
“And We (Allah Almighty) did not send you (O Prophet Muhammad ﷺ), except as a mercy for the whole of the trans-universal existence. “
When it is polite and compassionate, shared laughing reflects such mercy.