How can I build emotional bonding if I did not grow up with it myself?

Parenting Perspective 

Parenting in a different way than how you were raised requires a great deal of courage. Start by practicing self-compassion. Give your child a glimpse of the connection you wish you had. Slowly learn the language of emotions with the aid of literature, counselling, or journalling. Begin by naming your emotions, posing open-ended questions, and practicing listening without making corrections. Bonding is a talent, not an instinct, and it changes with each action you take. You are starting something precious; you are not falling behind.

Spiritual Insight 

Islam honours the capacity for renewal. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Ra’ad (13), Verse 11: 

“…indeed, Allah (Almighty) does not alter (the condition) of any nation, unless they start to make positive changes by themselves… “

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ reshaped a society from harshness to mercy through love, not force. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 2319, that he said: 

“He is not one of us who does not show mercy to our young.” 

Imaan is demonstrated by the decision to establish a link even in the absence of a blueprint.